Monday, February 27, 2012

Book Review: Love and Respect for a Lifetime

This was my first book review for BookSneeze, and I was so happy to have done this book as my first one.
What I loved about this book was that it broke down, what could have been a 600 page book, into simple and concise pages and small paragraphs that caught your eye and heart and stuck with me.

Dr. Emerson Eggerich doesn't leave anything to question and gives both husbands and wives the insight and tools they need to have a marriage that not only works, but thrives. 
Having been married for almost 9 years, I can tell you that the things he talks about and highlights in this book are dead on. 
It is the kind of book to keep on your shelf to reference every now and then. 
It's a beautifully put together book and I would recommend this for anyone engaged or newly married, as well as couples that have been married for some time. 

It's always a good thing to be refreshed in the things you know in your head, but sometimes forget in your heart. 
This would also make a great wedding present.

Another great feature of this book, are the testimonies from real couples.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com  book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Miscellany Monday

We had such a great weekend, it was so nice to be able to just be together as a family and not have a ton of other things to do. 
We did an impromptu lunch date on Thursday at the mall (cheap and easy) and then on Friday we took a little day trip.

This was our first trip in the car with the 3 boys in their new car-seats (big boys!) and all sitting next to one another ( all 3 fit in one row in our Honda Pilot)
It was an adjustment for them, but they eventually settled in. 

After tons and tons and tons of research, reviews and safety reports, we decided a year ago that the next car seats we would buy would be these ones:
Super low profile!

This is the mother of all car seats...I mean...the safest thing on the market and it's the only seat you will ever need. From infant to booster. It's pricey for an up-front cost, but most people by 3-4 seats over the course of a kids life and spend more than this (infant, regular, booster etc)
Since recommendations are now that you keep your child rear-facing until at least 2 years old, these made even more sense...since these are the only car seats that go up to 45lbs for rear facing!!!
Here are some more specs: 
( I highlighted my favorites!)

  • Rear-facing: 5 - 45 lbs, Forward-facing: 20 - 80 lbs (and up to 57") in a 5-point harness, Booster to 120 lbs, Steel alloy frame and aluminum reinforced sides, Safestop® energy-absorbing harness, Energy-absorbing EPS foam panels on all sides, Rear-facing tether capability, LATCH installation up to 80 lb child, Infant body support cushions, Memory foam padding for superior comfort, 5 shoulder and 3 buckle positions for custom fit, Expandable sides and longer seat bottom for leg support and comfort, 2 recline positions in forward-facing mode, Sits low on vehicle seat for easy child boarding, Fits 3 across in a mid-size vehicle and offers more shoulder space, Add up to 4 cup holders (1 included, Folds flat for travel and storage, Rubber bottom grips for no-slip installation
  • 3 in the back of a sedan or van!!! AMAZING!

The park. I have soooo many memories of going to this park with my family, and major memories of going down the slides with my Daddy. It was so great to bring my family back here and the sun was shining the whole time. Jack loved it and is getting more and more adventurous and brave and I took the twins our for a bit...but Camden didn't like the swing, and then they only wanted to eat the sawdust chips (grass was wet) so they mostly observed from the stroller :)

GG....we got to have breakfast with my Grandma (the boys' Great-Grandma) whom they call GG :) It was a special treat and Jack adores her.

Oh, and the big news for the week (if you follow my Facebook page or Twitter, you will already know....) I ran 4 miles on Saturday. 4. miles. 
Yes. For the first time in my life!
And it was windy and snowing. But felt amazing. I am so proud of myself...and I will not look ahead to the next 4, 5 and 6 miles on my schedule but savor this one for now :) I was slow....but I did it!!!

Go link up with Carissa...because she's awesome and it's fun :)

**I didn't receive anything from my review of the Diono RadianR120...I just love it so much

Friday, February 24, 2012

Guest Blogger: Life of a Birth Photographer with Melissa from MJ Birth Photography

I am so pleased to have Melissa doing a guest post today, we actually went to high school together 
(she was a Freshman when I was a Senior) 
and attended the same church for awhile.!

We got connected again
 through Facebook and having children around the same ages.

Melissa is a fantastic photographer whose passion is to capture life as it enters the world.  

Welcome Melissa!

I love my job. I am the birth photographer for 
Trillium Waterbirth Center in Southern Oregon. I am also a beginning study group student at the birth center, so as I photograph births I am getting incredible amounts of valuable hands on experience to go along with my class. Sometimes I feel like I am constantly living on a "birth high" (That oxytocin is contagious!) When I come home from a birth I usually try to talk to my husband so excitedly he can't understand a word I'm trying to get out! I am so blessed to enter a woman's birth space and document her journey into motherhood and her baby's journey into the world. I get different reactions when I tell people what I do. Most moms who have had babies think it is amazing, and comment on how they wished they had a birth photographer for their births. Some people react with a "you do WHAT?" look on their face while they smile and nod. No matter what the initial reaction is, almost everyone wonders how I came to be a birth photographer.

I have been a longtime fanatic of the birth world. It must have been something I was born with. It's a passion that drives me to read huge volumes of birth textbooks and watch a large amount of youtube birth videos. (My dear husband can cook an entire Saturday morning breakfast to the screams of laboring women without batting an eye. He is perfect for me). We got pregnant with our first baby four months after we were married. The entire pregnancy was new and exciting, I was high on life. I read books, magazines, blogs, websites and learned as much as I could. I planned a hospital birth with midwives, because I believed homebirthers were crazy hippies.

After a very easy 9 hour labor with an epidural, my world was forever changed when my beautiful baby girl slipped into my arms. After Alexis was born I gushed to anyone who would listen about her birth. I lived for the moment when someone asked me how it went or I could somehow slip the topic of birth into a conversation. ("Man, the line was so long at the DMV" "Oh that reminds me of my birth..."). The birth of Alexis was so incredible and life changing I dove deeper into the world of pregnancy and birth. Everything fascinated me! I started planning a homebirth for my next pregnancy. (I decided I could be a crazy hippie homebirther after all) The hospital birth had been so easy, why not do it at home? I did my research and picked the best homebirth midwife in our area. 

Shortly after I had Alexis, I realized I had been bit by the birth bug. The birth world called to me, I had to find a way to be involved. I looked into getting my Doula certification, I even looked into midwifery, but I didn't think I was cut out to make it through nursing school. My husband and I were getting more involved in photography, and with our new DSLR Canon, I decided to try to get into birth photography. I was lucky enough to have a sister in law who was 8 months pregnant. I shot the birth of her third child and I knew I was hooked. Slowly I began picking up clients, friends heard I took birth pictures and asked me to come to their birth. Meanwhile my husband and I stumbled into the world of wedding photography, and we began to shoot weddings together. When I originally decided to get into birth photography, it was virtually unheard of in our area. Now it is growing quickly in popularity, and it excites me. I'm so thankful the importance of a mothers labor and birth journey is being recognized as something worthy of documenting. One of my biggest regrets about my first birth is not filming it. I only have still shots, no video. I was sure to get lots of footage for my second birth, but it doesn't make up for the fact that I have no footage of my first birth.

While my husband and I were busy building a side photography business, we were ecstatic to get pregnant again, and we pushed forward with our homebirth plans.  Once again I had a wonderful pregnancy (with all the normal pregnancy aches and pains and morning sickness). I had our 2nd daughter in the water at home 2 days before my due date. It was another easy 8 hour labor (with 14 not so easy minutes of pushing!), and everything went off without a hitch. My midwives were professional, compassionate, and everything I could ever want in a midwife. I loved the whole midwife experience so much I joined the year long beginning midwifery study group class through the birth center. I wanted to stay involved with the birth center in any way I could, I was in love with the environment and the midwives who ran it.

 When Sophia was three months old, my midwife called to ask if I would be interested in being hired on as their full time birth photographer. It took everything I had NOT to start jumping around for joy while I was still on the phone. Not only would I be working with the midwives who delivered Sophia, it would be steady births, and I would be able to quit my job working at the drive through coffee stand. So I did it - I quit my barista job and put my life into working at the birth center. I shot my first birth there in November, and the births kept coming. I photographed 3 births on Christmas Eve - I must say, though wonderfully satisfying, it was quite hectic running from birth to birth! The more births I attended, the more birth felt completely comfortable and natural for me. I love listening to the "labor song" of mamas. 

My midwife has taught me so much through working at the center. She is a wealth of information, and I soak it up like a sponge. She has taught me how to identify what is happening by sounds in the voice. I know the sound of the last bit of cervix melting away (a low, deep moan breaks into a high pitched shrieking moan at the end), the sound of baby beginning to pass through a fully dilated cervix, and the sound of a mama close to transitioning into pushing. Just this morning I photographed the birth of a baby born in the caul (amniotic sac still intact), which is said to be as rare as every 80,000 births! In cultures across the world being born in the caul is a sign of a prophet. What a joy to be at one of those special deliveries! I see mamas triumph over all odds and deliver beautiful babies after being told their pelvis was too small to birth naturally. I see mamas who make their way silently through labor, and mamas who scream bloody murder at the top of their lungs while pushing their baby out. (And, have to admit I was a screamer the last 14 minutes of my birth too!).

Being a birth photographer can be a little crazy. The hours are extremely unpredictable (I once left during my family's Christmas celebration to shoot a birth) and can be inconvenient. (At 4:35 this morning I was pouring two day old iced tea over my windshield to help it defrost quicker in the bitter cold). I have to have constant on-call childcare. I have now started answering my phone and talking before I'm fully awake in the middle of the night, forgetting half the conversation by the time I hang up - my midwife assured me it comes with the territory.  Despite all this, time and time again I realize how much I am blessed and renewed each time I attend a birth. One excited new dad asked me, "How do you sleep at night with so much magic in your life?! How can you handle all this wonderfulness?! This is real life! This is LIFE!" I couldn't say it better myself.

Right after her second daughter was born at home

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

My weekend/week in letters........

A. A break away from social media was perfect. Just what I needed :)

B. Blissdom. Are you going? I am thinking about it for next year...with boho mama. 

C. Camden &Christian 
those are the littles and I couldn't think of a C hehe
D. Done. We are done making payments on our car! We paid it off! YAY!

E. Emotionally exhausted. That's me. 
The past few weeks have just done me in...I've been weary. 
Feeling so much better today, and thanking the Lord for renewing me!

F, G, H, I J, K, L, M, N, O, P, Q...

R. Running! I ran 3 miles last Friday and it's the first time I've run 3 miles since before I got pregnant with the twins! Yay me :)

S. Sarah. She blogs over at Life isn't Always a Fairytale and she's my new favorite person to follow on her blog and twitter. 
I feel like I know her in real life.
Hope I don't creep you out Sarah haha!

T, U...

V. VOTE! Did you go vote for me? If should...they really are the cutest 3 boys :)

W. Webpage! Did you notice that it's now www.3littlemenandamommy.COM!? :) 
I am pretty excited to have my own domain now!

And there is a new little blog button over there on the right, if you so choose to grab it :)

I don't have any more letters...sorry.

How about some cuteness??

We are ONE!

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Go Vote!

It's Monday

Un-plugging felt GREAT!

Now....go vote for the cutest 3 boys ever, please?? :)

Friday, February 17, 2012


I am "un-plugging" this weekend.
No blogging, no Facebook and no Twitter.
Image from Fit in the Midwest Blog

See you Monday friends!

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Not much "crunchy" going on here....

You've probably figured it out by now, but I'm not what you would call a "crunchy" Mama.

For those of you not in the loop on such terms ( I wasn't until a few months ago!)
 Crunchy is what is used to describe an ‘Attachment’ parenting style. A more natural way of living.
                     You might also find it grouped along with words like hippie, natural, granola....

In fact, I took this How Crunchy Are You quiz, and I scored a 34 out of 225
Putting me in the category of 
Sprinkled with Granola, which is the third lowest on the crunchy scale.

I was crunchy in these areas :
Breastfeeding...which I am a huge advocate for and would have breastfed all my kids until a year at least if I could have
(now...see, this is where the judgmental crunchy Mama's start thinking, "she really could have if she really wanted to, there is always a way....")
Also, the idea of someone else breastfeeding my child or vice verse....yeah, I wouldn't rule that out.
Sleeping with the child in your room, next to you, bringing them into bed when you nurse. (which true crunchy parents will tell you isn't enough, you must sleep in the bed with your child)

Baby-wearing...loved our Moby and sling and Ergo carriers! Love holding my little ones on my chest. HUGE believer in this, I've seen what that can do, especially for early ones.

Cleaning products...I make ours. Because we save a ton of money, and I can use them around the kids without worry!

So, no...I am not crunchy. We use disposable diapers, we vaccinate on schedule, and we don't eat solely organic foods....

I do have several friends who are very crunchy, and I adore them.
See, there are crunchy Mama's, and then there are the pushy, "I'm too good for you and your naive thinking" crunchy Mama's who make you feel like an inferior parent for letting your child 
CIO (cry-it-out) and for sometimes eating frozen meals. 
They make you feel like they are "enlightened" and know all and we are blinded by the lies. 
Those kind of crunchy Mama's rub me the wrong way.
Same as the non-crunchy Mama's who think it's their way or the highway.

We all have our reasons for doing what we do, and for parenting the way we parent. 
Hopefully, it's because we've researched and done what we feel is best for our family and not because it's "trendy".
Because, cloth-diapering is pretty trendy right now....

I love that we are not all cookie cutter Mama's who have cookie cutter kids. 

Please don't make other Mom's feel bad because they co-sleep and you don't think that's safe. 

Please don't make other Mom's feel bad because they don't use cloth diapers....I mean, really?!

My biggest issue, is the vaccination thing.
I am pro-vaccine all the way...on schedule. 
I am not going to say anything more on the matter, but that is where I stand.

I am pretty thankful that the crunchy Mama's who I am friends with, are not like those other ones...who either on purpose or without knowing, make you feel like a bad Mom if you are not crunchy.

It's silly really.
I mean, we are all trying to do our best for our kids and our families....we should be supportive and encouraging and understanding in all things.

And I hope to glean wisdom from these crunchy Mamas! Like, my new found interest and purchasing of Coconut Oil! Thank you crunchy friends!

And I hope, that they can learn something from us non-crunchy Mama's too.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

This Valentine's Day is much much sweeter....

This Valentine's Day is extra special for me. 
It's the first Valentine's Day with all of my lovely men, at home together.

Last year, in the wee hours of the morning on Valentine's Day...our boys went in for their car-seat test.
The last step to getting released for home!
We fell into a deep sleep and were awakened by the NICU nurse who said that Christian failed his test and they would have to try again the next day.
While a total bummer, we knew that a car-bed was also an option if he didn't pass the next time.

Unfortunately, she came back in just a few minutes later to tell us that Christian was being admitted to the NICU.
After being placed in the car-seat, his oxygen level immediately dropped, so much so that they decided to test him while he was out of the car-seat and see where he was at.
He was doing the same things....basically forgetting to breath (which can be normal for babies, especially premature ones) but he wasn't remembering to start up again.
He was doing periodic breathing "with symptoms" as they call it.

I sobbed. Trev was still asleep while the Nurse was telling me, and I woke him up...I could hardly get a word out.
I managed to eek out the words "He's being admitted for not breathing" in between my hysterical sobbing.

This is what we had prayed for so many months...that neither boy would be admitted to the NICU.
We'd walked that path with Jack and it tore me up. I did not want to do it again.
It was one of my biggest fears.
And here I was facing it.....

Camden did great, and was brought back to the room...where he slept in my bed, cheek against my cheek.
The next morning Camden's bilirubin levels were at the point of needing photo-therapy, and we knew....he'd be admitted too.
So, on Valentine's Day 2011....instead of getting in the car and bringing our two precious new boys home, we left the hospital empty handed.
It was gut wrenching.

No, they weren't fighting for their life, it was all due to being premature twins...very normal.
But it was not what I expected, wanted, prayed for, desired or hoped for.
I was devastated.

I knew too much about the NICU...about what doing that meant. And I hated it.
And the thought of doing that all over again, with two children and one at was too much.

8 and 10 days...that's it. That's how long they were in.
That may seem like nothing to you, or if you have been will know, that every day feels like an eternity. And it truely does.

I don't think I will ever know, really, why they had to go through that. Why we did.
I have several friends with babies, including twins, born around that same time and needed no NICU.
But, I do know that HE knows more than I ever will...and if I can help someone through their time in the NICU, if I can be a support to those that have to walk that road...I can do that. I can be that. 

So, today...on Valentine's Day....I'm kissing and hugging on my boys extra hard. 

Valentine's Day 2011


What the NICU made for us :)

Monday, February 13, 2012

Little Man Mustache Bash!

When I began searching for themes for the twins birthday party, 
I knew I didn't want 
a typical "twin" themed party.
And so I searched Pinterest for something unique and fun....and happened upon this theme!
And it fit perfectly, because...well, I call them my Little Men!

I followed the link on Pinterest to this Etsy shop and began e-mailing the shop owner.
She was quick to respond, and helped to customize this whole set to what we needed.
She was fabulous to work with, and has other awesome things in her shop.
I would love for you to check it out!
Image from Belva June Website

So, yes...we did a Little Man Mustache Bash!
You see them everywhere now, but I hadn't seen one for little people and was excited to do this.
Of course, what is a little man without a bow-tie? 
So, I ordered these awesome bow-ties from my fellow twin mama blogger, Mandey!
She is fantastic. And check out this deal:
Image from Mama Mandolin Etsy Shop

We had a little "Photo Booth" set up with props that people could use and then I made a little "guest book" out of all the pictures, adding Happy Birthday wishes with text on the pictures. I thought that would be so fun for them as they got older, to look through and see who came and all the funny pictures.

My Dad had a last minute surprise and had one of the local balloon artists come for an hour, and he was an absolute hit!
I have never seen a balloon guy this good, and the kids loved it....even the older ones (my husband) :)

The boys ate their cake (little bow-tie shapes) made by my Mom.
And as expected, Camden dug in and couldn't get it in his mouth fast enough....where as Christian, dabbled in it but I don't think he ever even got to the cake and he was done. 

It was a blast, and really it was a big THANK YOU party to all of our friends and family who helped us make it through our first year. People who brought us food, cleaned our house, watched our kids, drove us places, did our shopping etc. 
We are so blessed and so thankful!

And now for pictures!

Saturday, February 11, 2012

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Friday, February 10, 2012

Twins First Year Slideshow!

Happy First Birthday Camden & Christian!!!

Time to celebrate!
Time to celebrate these two sweet little boys who have now been with us for one whole year!
Time to celebrate Mommy and Daddy surviving the first year!

Time to thank the Lord for His goodness and faithfulness.

Happy Birthday Little Men!!

I cannot believe this day is here.
I mean, did I just post this?

And yet, here we are....and it's been an amazing and wild ride, one that I would not change. 

Tomorrow I will be guest blogging over at Multiples and More about what I learned the first year of twins!

Camden Rhea

You are such a joy. 
You have the best and quickest smile. 
You wake up happy and smiling 99% of the time, and you love your food.
You are like a Hoover Vacuum, and you just devour it.
You are, the epitome of a Mama's boy.
If I'm near or in the room, you lunge for me....cry for me. 
But once you are content, you are great at playing alone or following your brothers around.
You are a quick crawler, and learning to cruise faster.
You have taken a single step here and there, but are in no hurry to walk...and I am okay with that.
You sleep wonderfully, and you have the biggest, brightest blue eyes...that just mesmerize.
You have 4 teeth, and more coming soon...
You are a great copy-cat. 
You will mimic almost everything, and are very proud of that.
You love the kitty and say "ti-tee" whenever she walks by.
You love to clap and click your tongue. 
You love your sippy cup and no longer use a bottle!

You are wearing 12 month clothes perfectly, and we will see where on the charts you land at the official 
1 Year appointment next week!
You have the sweetest disposition, and you are just a calm little guy.
I cannot wait to see who you become over this next year!
I love you so, so very much!

Christian Grant

You, my youngest, me sweet bean...are full of joy.
You have the hugest smile and a huge laugh to go with.
You are a great eater, and very clean! You don't even need a bib, really!
You are walking everywhere and are so proud.
You love to follow me around, and although you are so independent, you'd love to be held all day long by anyone who would do it.
You are a particular little man, and like things just so.
If it's throw the biggest and best tantrum I have ever seen of someone your age. 
And you have the scream of a screech owl.
And at the same time, you are the snuggler. You love to snuggle and be rocked and cuddled and I treasure those quiet moments we get before the others wake up.
You have equally huge eyes that are looking more and more green everyday. 
Four teeth for you as well! Those were some tough ones for you.

You are a jabber mouth! You talk and talk and talk and make the funnest, and silliest sounds. You point at things and go into long explanations and have great inflection and expression. 
I can't wait to actually understand you.
You are in 12 month clothes too...although the shirts are pretty baggy on you, as you are still pretty small.
But I can tell you are putting on weight, and you are so long!
You love to greet whoever comes to the door, and make their day.
You are doing great with your sippy cup, and we said good-bye to bottles today!
You are the one who will keep us on our toes, as although you are have the adventurous spirit and a wild side. 
That accompanied with your sweet disposition is going to be a blast to watch develop!

Bottom line, this year has been hard, long, rough, tearful, memorable, exhausting, beautiful, crazy, wonderful, silly, fun, and exciting.

I am so proud to be your Mama. 
I love you both so much.
Thank you for this year. 

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Top 10 Things I Couldn't Have Lived Without...

I decided to put together a list of the 
Top 10 Things I Couldn't Have Lived Without
this first year of twin life. 
Some things you may say, "shoot, we did fine without that"
"we only needed one of those"

That's fine. This is my list. 
In no particular order

1) Two Swings
Camden loved to swing side to side while Christian loved to swing back and these swings were perfect because they did both.
We had one from Jack and the other my sister-in-law let us borrow.
The twins ended up sleeping in these things for quite awhile and I honestly don't know how we would have survived without both of them!

2) Food.

Specifically dinner. My Mom organized our friends, family and church family and we had dinner provided nearly every day for TWO MONTHS!
I don't think we would have eaten otherwise. 
Such a blessing!

3) Swaddle Blankets

We were pros at swaddling because Jack loved it. And while Christian fought the swaddle, it really helped him calm down and sleep. And our boys are strong and break out of regular blankets, so we used these ones.
And then eventually double swaddled. 
Sleep is important, do what you must. 

4) Medela Breast Pump

We had to buy this once Jack was in the NICU and thankfully it still worked amazingly, and seriously was a huge lifesaver. Spend the dough on the nice brand...don't settle

5) My Brest Friend Nursing Pillow

I had researched and read everything, and this was the one. My Mom bought this from another twin Mom. 
I used other pillows underneath to prop this up at an angle, and having the strap around the back really helped keep it steady and tight. I also used little towels on each side of it to help turn the boys in when they were super small. 

6) This car seat and stroller combo.

We fell in love with this car seat with Jack and I knew I didn't want to go with any other one. And Chicco had just come out with the double stroller to go with it.
We were blessed by our church staff and my parents and between them we had the full meal deal.
The seats are the narrowest you can find, the safety ratings are amazing and the will last you a long time. 
The I cannot say enough good things about it.
I knew we didn't want a snap in type stroller because, once the babies outgrow the car seats you are stuck with that thing and you don't need it anymore and you have to buy another stroller.
With this stroller, you can still use it after they are out of the infant seats! Perfect.
Plus, although it's heavy it folds easily with one hand, and stores nicely. 

7) These Bottle Warmers

These are amazing. Fill them up, set the right size/amount and in a blink of an eye your bottles are the perfect temp. These are the cream of the crop warmers.
Again, my sister-in-law (bless her!) let us use these.
Yes we had two.
Time matters folks! 

8) These little lounger chairs

We always called them bouncers, but they don't bounce.
They have music and vibrate....but we never used it.
We could buckle the babies in here and set them on either side of us and bottle feed them at the same time.
Amazing. Thanks to my sister-in-law we had two :)

9) This guy.

I know you can't all have one of him. I wish you could.
He took over 2 months off of work (we are so blessed he works for an incredibly understanding and supportive church that puts family first)
He got up with me every time I nursed. And when I was about to snap. Literally, when I was at a point of breaking mentally he stayed in the front room with the babies and did all the feeds. I slept in our bed, woke up to pump...took him the milk and went back to bed. He did this for two weeks.
If he hadn't...I'd have been committed  admitted.
Cleaned, washed, bathed, drove, did it all. And still led worship every weekend (after the first two weeks)
He's the bomb.

10) My family and friends

They watched Jack, they organized the meals, they ran errands, they held babies. They were there whenever we needed them.
They went grocery shopping for us, they cleaned our house, they cleaned our car.
They drove me to and from the NICU and waited while I nursed.
They brought coffee.
They send texts, they called.
They prayed and encouraged.

This first year, really was an amazing team effort.

So, there ya have it.
My Top 10